Whenever I’m engaged in a conversation that seems to be headed towards
I need to take the time to consider what’s at stake, and how it may
have a long-term effect on my relationship with the other person.
While we think at times our point of view may be valid, significant, justified,
and completely correct…
often how we resolve the issue is more important that the issue at hand.
Most often there is only one thing at stake in making the decision on
whether to trying to win the argument… or move on from it…
That one thing is Pride.
If I am genuinely concerned for the other person, helping them
overcome what I may view as “their issue” is secondary to what may
happen in the heat of the moment…
It’s typically all about our pride.
What will other people think?
How will they look at me?
Typically, the people who really matter in my life will think more of
me for finding the love to let it go.
I believe the most important thing to learn from any disagreement is…
what can I learn from this situation about me?
how can I improve myself through this challenge.
“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” 2 Corinthians 10:5
In effect, it’s really up to God to determine the truth, it may not always be what it appears to us, and let us first seek the glory of God in everything we do.
we are to…
“Let love and faithfulness never leave you, bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3: 3-6
Winning the argument is truly meaningless.
What suggestions could you offer to helping someone let go of anger
and engaging in an argument?