This is a guest post by Michelle Myers, who writes aboutÂ Faith, FamilyÂ & Fitness and has an excellentÂ story to share about God’s plan and work in her life. I hope that you’ll check out her book and blog, I’m incredibly inspired by and admireÂ her work! “When life is so much more complicated than just uttering the dude word!”…
When “Dude, Just Eat Something” Doesn’t Work…
ConÂfronting someÂone with an eatÂing disÂorÂder is never comÂfortÂable. EatÂing disÂorÂders are as unique as the indiÂvidÂual, so thereâ€™s no â€œone size fits allâ€ approach to startÂing this critÂiÂcal conÂverÂsaÂtion. HowÂever, here are some genÂeral guideÂlines of how to bibÂliÂcally approach someÂone with a sin issue in their life, such as an eatÂing disorder.
Speak the truth in love. No matÂter how difÂfiÂcult it may be, donâ€™t just look the other way. EatÂing disÂorÂders have manÂaged to creÂate an image as a disÂease rather than a sin addicÂtion, but thatâ€™s just a lie. Yes, eatÂing disÂorÂders have physÂiÂcal conÂseÂquences. Yes, eatÂing disÂorÂders are very much a menÂtal batÂtle. But so is being addicted to cocaine. Speak truth into their life because you loveÂ them.
â€œThen we will no longer be immaÂture like chilÂdren. We wonâ€™t be tossed and blown about by every wind of new teachÂing. We will not be influÂenced when peoÂple try to trick us with lies so clever they sound like the truth. Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growÂing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church. He makes the whole body fit together perÂfectly. As each part does its own speÂcial work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole body is healthy and growÂing and full of love.â€œ
â€“ EphÂesians 4:14â€“16
After you address your conÂcern, pray for them before you leave, and ask them to pray about your conÂverÂsaÂtion on their own. If you were angry with someÂone and they prayed over you, how would it change your heart? You probÂaÂbly would find that your heart was softÂened just by their words. The power of prayer is incredÂiÂble. Donâ€™t just tell them youâ€™ll be prayÂing for them. SHOW them by prayÂing for them right then so they can see how you are actively takÂing their life toÂ God.
â€œSearch me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxÂious thoughts. Point out anyÂthing in me that offends You, and lead me along the path of everÂlastÂing life.â€œ
â€“ Psalm 139:23â€“24
Remind them if they just subÂmit their whole life to God, He will change them. The power of addicÂtion can seem so strong that thereâ€™s no way to overÂcome it. That is a LIE! What seems imposÂsiÂble for us isnâ€™t even difÂfiÂcult for God. Itâ€™s just a matÂter of givÂing Him control.
â€œFor I have told you often before, and I say it again with tears in my eyes, that there are many whose conÂduct shows they are really eneÂmies of the cross of Christ. They are headed for destrucÂtion. Their god is their appetite, they brag about shameÂful things, and they think only about this life here on earth. But we are citÂiÂzens of heaven, where the Lord Jesus Christ lives. And we are eagerly waitÂing for him to return as our SavÂior. He will take our weak morÂtal bodÂies and change them into gloÂriÂous bodÂies like his own, using the same power with which he will bring everyÂthing under his conÂtrol.â€œ
â€“ PhilipÂpiÂans 3:18â€“21
â€œNo human wisÂdom or underÂstandÂing or plan can stand against the Lord.â€ Prov.Â 21:30.
Ground them in His Wordsâ€¦not yours. As no-brainer logic as â€œDude, just eat someÂthing!â€ may sound, eatÂing disÂorÂders are much more comÂpliÂcated. No matÂter how great you think your arguÂment is for why they should stop their destrucÂtive behavÂior, your words arenâ€™t sharper than a double-edged sword. Godâ€™s are. Give them as much ScripÂture as you posÂsiÂbly can that applies to their issue, and allow the Holy Spirit to conÂvictÂ them.
â€œAnd so, dear brothÂers and sisÂters, I plead with you to give your bodÂies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a livÂing and holy sacrificeâ€”the kind he will find acceptÂable. This is truly the way to worÂship him. Donâ€™t copy the behavÂior and cusÂtoms of this world, but let God transÂform you into a new perÂson by changÂing the way you think. Then you will learn to know Godâ€™s will for you, which is good and pleasÂing and perÂfect.â€œ
â€“ Romans 12:1â€“2
â€œYou made all the delÂiÂcate, inner parts of my bodyâ€¨and knit me together in my motherâ€™s womb.â€¨Thank you for makÂing me so wonÂderÂfully comÂplex! â€¨Your workÂmanÂship is marvelousâ€”how well I know it.â€œ
â€“ Psalm 139:13â€“14
Remind them that God has already forÂgiven them & help them find the path to forÂgivÂing themÂselves. One of the biggest issues any repenÂtant ChrisÂtÂian will deal with is guilt. They may not be willÂing to admit they have a probÂlem after your first conÂverÂsaÂtion, but it never hurts to remind them of the grace we have availÂable to us because of Jesusâ€™ selfÂless death on theÂ cross.
â€œSo now there is no conÂdemÂnaÂtion for those who belong to Christ Jesus. And because you belong to him, the power of the life-giving Spirit has freed you from the power of sin that leads to deathâ€œ
â€“ Romans 8:1â€“2
You can read how God restored me to Him and to health in my book, The Look that Kills: An Anorexicâ€™s AddicÂtion to Control.