Six months ago I changed churches and decided to strive to be another face in the crowd. I just wanted to be average. Why? Well, after standing at the front door and dashing across the stage for 4 years I was yearning for a place where I could just be an average Joe. If you aim to blend in at church, a big one may work, or a small boutique with people who are all very similar. Or, possibly one that is overflowing with truth and grace. I love the new digs. I believe that God lead me to the right place, and at exactly the right time. I found new areas at the church where I can serve God that are more focused on using the gifts that He gave me. In many ways, I found the sweet spot in being average.
In school, we strove to do our best. Nobody wanted to be a mediocre student, earning all “C’s”. We all wanted to be great! Being great requires action, not just intention. Action… focus… and capacity. There were some subjects, like math, that I did well in, and others that were terribly difficult for me. Just dreadful.
Speaking of math, the Isaac Newton’s of the world have a definition for average too – the result of adding several quantities together and then dividing this total by the number of quantities. We also think of this number as the mean. Yep, the mean… but this is a good sort of mean. You see, in math, in order to reach the sweet spot of average, we have to put the individual numbers into a pile, or a group. Being in a group feels good, it’s where we find fellowship. And unity. And to achieving all that God created us for. It’s a big part of being great.
“Everybody can be great…because anybody can serve. You don’t have to have a college degree to serve. You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love.” â€” Martin Luther King Jr.
Can I be great and be average at the same time? For sure! The sweet spot is this: I can and should strive to achieve… go for the “A” every time. However, I am doing it for His glory, not mine.
Ok, so I’m not dime a dozen and neither are you. We’re all unique and rare as God made each of us in a very special way; the lady who is average height, the runner who finishes in the middle of the pack, the manager who is in the mid-range of the pay scale, and the dude who’s appearance is, well, just average. We are all average in some way, but perfectly flawless and unique in God’s making. If I identify my gifts and talents, I can excel and contribute most in those areas. Then, I can connect with other people who are also being great but in different ways, and our combined effort adds up to being awesome. Holy guacamole!!
The sweet spot in being average is knowing that it’s not all about me. I’m comfortable with that. Jesus is on the stage, the center of attention. Yep, the wayward carpenter. There’s a lot that goes on behind the curtain that is critical to every successful performance. Does that mean that I’m shooting for “C’s”? Nope.
â€œStop looking for the path of least resistance and start running down the path of greatest glory to God and good to others, because that’s what Jesus, the Real Man, did.â€ Mark Driscoll
Don’t be discouraged if you don’t make the grade. It’s all good. My skills and gifts are completely different from yours, and the next guys. No biggie. We’re all in this together, right? Shoot to be great at everything you do! For His glory. That’s the sweet spot in being average.
In what area would you say that you are “most average”?
I love the idea that God bunches everyone together with all kinds of different gifts and then gets a mean. Cool idea for average, Chris.
Thank you Carol, I like how you “summed it all up” – LOL 🙂
I think you hit the nail on the head when you said
“The sweet spot in being average is knowing that itâ€™s not all about me. Iâ€™m comfortable with that. Jesus is on the stage, the center of attention.”
One thing I never want to be accused of as a church leader is taking the spot light off of Jesus. My task is to make Him known in all I do!
Great thoughts Caleb, thank you for sharing!
I needed to read this post!
I’ve been praying lately for God to show my husband and me how He wants us to serve Him. Seems we’ve been put in roles/positions that just aren’t right for us.
We are willing to fill voids so the church can function, but this can lead to burn out as we are functioning in roles not completely suited for us.
Yesterday God spoke some awesome truths to me and today you’ve continued to speak to me.
Praise God, glad to hear that He is at work in our lives TC!